Why do we even need confidence? What’s the big deal really?
Confidence is something you’ll see a lot of in self-help articles, blogs, magazines, and books:
“How To Be Confident”, “13 Confidence Hacks”, “5 Ways to Gain Confidence” – but WHY do we need to be confident to be successful and happy?
Well, let me ask you a question:
Are you also someone who has goals and dreams but has never gone after them? Do you crave a different, more fulfilled life but haven’t taken any steps toward it?
If so, I’m going to be brutally honest with you – it’s a lack of confidence that is getting in your way.
Now, you might not think that you lack confidence. Or maybe it’s something you’ve never really thought about. Or maybe you have confidence in some areas of life but not others.
For instance you may be confident in your piano playing skills, but not in your Excel skills. You may be confident in your looks but not at public speaking. You may be a confident athlete but not confident in your intelligence. You may be socially confident but at work you’re shy and don’t speak up. The list goes on.
The kind of confidence we’re talking about here is different.
It’s the confidence to pursue what you want in order to achieve the life you want. It’s confidence in the unknown.
It’s easy to be confident when you know you’re good at something. It’s hard to have confidence about something that may not even exist yet, some far future goal you’ve only ever dreamed about tackling.
It’s having confidence in yourself as a whole person that is the most important, not the confidence you might have at one particular skill.
This lack of confidence is also called SELF-DOUBT.
Self-doubt is what holds us back from going after our goals and dreams. It’s what makes us think we aren’t good enough to go after what we want in life. It causes us to procrastinate day after day and be stuck in a boring life or job that does nothing to excite us.
Let me give you a real life example to prove that the key to moving toward your goals is confidence:
A couple years ago, I was at a company for about 1.5 years and was feeling very restless, stuck, uninspired, and ready for a change. I’d been dabbling in blogging and having thoughts of working for myself, but I was always telling myself there is no way I could ever run and build my own business because I never follow through with things.
So instead I found a new job at a different company, still in my safe little 9-5 world. I played it safe. Within 2 weeks of starting that job I was already uninspired again and feeling stuck.
That’s when I decided SOMETHING needed to be done to get me to move forward with my online business goals, but I didn’t know what. So I hired a coach. She specialized in getting people out of their 9-5 jobs and into the online business world.
I learned a lot from her, but by far the most valuable skill I learned was how to build up my confidence in myself.
I was surprised at how quickly I became fully confident in myself as an entrepreneur using the techniques she taught me, so much so that going after my dream goal seemed EASY and completely attainable. This confidence turned into crazy motivation to start working toward my goal.
Now fast-forward only 6 months later and I’ve made tons of progress on my business and have so much confidence in it that I’m leaving my full-time job at the end of the year to go ALL IN!
In case you just skimmed that novel above ; ) – just by shifting & growing my confidence I was able to completely transform the path my life was taking in under 6 months. I went from feeling stuck in life and in a job I didn’t like to building my own business and feeling incredibly inspired & motivated. And I can’t stress enough that really the only change I made was building up my confidence. I already had the technical knowledge I needed to start an online business, but I was getting in my own way with my self-doubt.
So I challenge you to look deep, deeeep inside and be honest with yourself – do you have the confidence to drop everything and begin working toward your dream goal right now?
Do you know without a doubt that you will succeed no matter what because you will never quit?
If the answer is no, then you lack the confidence in yourself that you need to make your dream goals come true. BUT, that’s completely 100% OK! You are not alone, the majority of people feel the exact same way as you. They have dreams and goals they think about and tell themselves “nah I could never really do that”.
The good news for YOU is that you’re about to find out there is a way to build up this necessary confidence using just your own mind and some simple techniques. Check out the links below to start learning!